My Supports

Support in any venture can beneficial even a key factor in success.  For me my father has been the primary support in my life, endeavors, and goals.  My father who is still a very important part of my life had two girls…and as I grew up I realized that most fathers may have wanted a son, even my dad.  However, my father being the great man he is raised me without the gender specific roles most children face.  To this day he brags that his daughters can do anything a man can do.  He taught me to defend myself, fix my car, play every sport and encourage me to follow my dreams.  It is because of my father that I am where I am as a person, an individual, and a human being.  My father instilled in me that gender, society, and obstacles are what you accept them to be and that life is what you make it.  You get out of life exactly what you put into it…my dad taught me that!  The most important lesson that my dad taught me is should never assume anything and people are only as reliable as much as they like you.  I think that this is greatly related to the relationships you build around yourself.  Sadly, it seems to me support is conditional through the relationships that you form, develop, and maintain.  Support can be conditional.  At work there is support, but it is only through the good times and I would hate to see what it would turn into if I was not the employee I was. 

Without the support of my dad, I couldn’t imagine where I would be, who I would be, or what I might have done rather than my career in early childhood.  He is my hero! 

I think the biggest challenge with support is whether or not you can rely on it.  While you have support you can do and achieve anything, but what happens when its gone, who do you rely on?  I think it all comes down to whether you believe in yourself and who has helped you to achieve this great feat.  The benefit of support is insurmountable, but I also believe that you have to have that inner drive to succeed. 

I believe that if you have a strong foundation of support when you are young, setting the drive and desire to succeed you yourself become the driving source of support when you are older…becoming your own support, setting your own goals and the support system you need to achieve those goals.  I guess that is the most valuable and important lesson that my dad ever instilled in me that I hope to pass on one day to my own children…the one true person you can rely on is yourself, so fight for what you want because no one is going to give it to you.  There may be that one soul that genuinely means you well, but most people act with their own interests in mind.  Sad, but true.  Have I been wronged or is this just the sad reality of what our society has become.